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Goddamazon: This whole "don't physically discipline your kids" stuff is some NORTHERN WHITE LIBERAL NONSENSE

femmenoire:

leonineantiheroine:

freshmouthgoddess:

dank-potion:

thegoddamazon:

zorascreation:

That’s why White children are disrespectful as FUCK.

That’s why White families are FOREVER asking Black & Brown women to be mammies and Black & Brown men to be mentors to their damn pickney.

Fuck no.

Even if you don’t physically…

no  no no  this come from a place of … i don’t know i grew up in house were there was DV .. to this day i’m triggerd by the threath of violence .. and i could never do it to a child ever .. it’s just brings me to tear..  and i would be damn if i let people raise a hand to me when i was a child ..  no no no ..

yeah, just shut up and stop creating rubbish claims like white kids are disrespectful because they aren’t thrown across the room.

I’m African American. I grew up with a mother who spanked me. She was a single mother and used physical punishment b/c she honestly didn’t have the time or energy to sit down and talk shit out with me. I don’t blame her.

The problem was, when she was at work my brother was my main guardian. After some trauma he experienced with our father (by drama I mean our father choked him and basically threatened to kill him when he was no more than 12) my brother began to think that physical abuse = discipline. 

So he physically abused me for around three years. 

I’ve also seen this same boy (now man) leave a belt buckle scar on his 3 year old daughter’s thigh and verbally abuse his children that his partner (who’s barely any better herself) had to ban him (and herself) from physically disciplining their children.

So no… I do not agree whoopings = better behaved children. For some, like me whoopings and other forms of physical abuse = scarred, scared children who become adults eternally afraid of human agression. But even worse, they become adults who believe that the people you love most will eventually hurt you, so why let anyone into your life. 

This is an unspoken legacy African Americans need to deal with before they start giving out child-rearing advice.

@Zora and the others we did read ..  what you are saying is  all about abuse .. there are many forms of abuse .. My father was violent to my  mother  and  mentaly and emotionally abusive to me and my sisters.. for a very fucking long time i thought that abuse meant love..  yes i say it’s the legacy of slavery .. in Haiti  there is a saying the only way to have a Haitian  to anything it’s to beat him with a stick.. violence permeate all our lives eeryday .. it’s the way we talk we behave.. so no!!! no that shit is nopt fucking acceptable we are not slaves .. children  are not parents property they are human beings and they deserve to be treated with respect. .. and love .. i don’t care how pissed you guys get .. and you wonder why  communities are crumbling when people advocate for the circle of abuse to keep going .. I ‘ve had enough ..  of the violence.. That shit trigger the fuck out of .. and  it take me back to a time where i was small and helpless and  could not help my mom .. and when the threat of physical violence … I still fear men for this very reason ..  ..  so no .. Physical dicsipline = abuse .. you can’t sugar coat it and call it  and calll is  discipline .. but  whatever you will do  what you want  in the end ..

I’m so sorry to hear it femme Noire ..  so sorry

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